Monday, 10 November 2014

Multitasking

Hey, I’m finally back and I apologize for my absence. It’s been a bit of a whirl wind around here and while I’ve been busier than ever lately I have had no choice but to put some things on the back burner for a while, including my blog. I have been thinking about you though, my dear blog readers and feeling anxious knowing some of you will wonder how Mike is doing.

First things first, I’m happy to report that my dad has had his surgery and is recovering well and ahead of schedule. My dad had the Whipple procedure on October 20. I’ll let this quote from the Center for Pancreatic and Billary Disease website explain what the “Whipple” is: “In the Whipple operation the head of the pancreas, a portion of the bile duct, the gallbladder and the duodenum is removed. Occasionally a portion of the stomach may also be removed [In my dad’s case a portion of his stomach was removed]. After removal of these structures the remaining pancreas, bile duct and the intestine is sutured back into the intestine to direct the gastrointestinal secretions back into the gut.”

I knew my dad was a strong man—physically and maybe even more so mentally, but this experience has proven him stronger than we all realized. It takes a lot of strength, determination, perseverance and true grit to do what he has done all these years as a missionary, so we shouldn't be surprised how these qualities transfer to every area of his life. In this case he was out of the hospital in nine days, when the average person stays for about two weeks. What I noticed throughout this whole ordeal (from when he was first diagnosed with a cancerous tumour until now) is how he never focused on the operation and possible treatment needed after, he just stayed focused on his next trip to Malawi to inspect his building project and to drill the next well. My mom, his missionary partner and partner in life, is super strong as well, so they make an excellent team! My dad referred to her the other day as his “nurse”.

On Saturday, that nurse and this nurse (me and my mom) left our patients for a couple of hours and went and watched some of Michaela’s black belt test (my niece, my mom’s granddaughter). My dad is fine on his own, and Mike’s care giver was here, so we ventured out. Sounds reasonable I take off for a while right? But I hadn’t really left Mike’s side for over a week. And for weeks, maybe months, I haven’t ventured out very far or for very long. I hang around most of the time, even when Mike’s care givers are here because I do most of his tube feeds and suction. Mike’s home care givers aren’t allowed to do tube feeds or suction (I know that sounds odd, but those are the rules). He does have a nurse that comes sometimes, but she doesn’t do the deep suctioning that I do. It’s out of her scope of practice…it’s out of my scope of practice as well, but you do what you gotta do. (Thanks to Elanna for doing Mike’s tube feeds and suction the evenings Madison and I are at school)

Around the beginning of October, Mike had more phlegm than usual and his eyes were a bit goopy. I told him he was catching a cold or something. He shook his head no. I said it a few times throughout those early weeks in October, but he told me he didn’t have a cold, he said that he was becoming weaker and was having more difficulty clearing his throat. Either way, things were getting a little out of control so I increased his medication to dry up his secretions. Slowly but surely the increased medication took it’s toll on Mike and he ended up unable to take a “TC”. If you read my fairly recent post, ‘Oh Crap!’, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

Our doctor recently made a house call to listen to Mike’s lungs and he said they are clear, so that was good. The doctor suggested that Mike has a cold or allergies. Last year at the exact same time, Mike ended up in the hospital with the same symptoms. Last year though, I didn’t do the deep suctioning that I do now. I have honed my suctioning skills I guess and have managed to wrestle the phlegm right here at home. (When I say “deep” suctioning, I mean to the back of his throat, not down his throat… well, maybe a little bit down but very gently and carefully)  

Anyway, after Mike finally had a decent “TC” and when his secretions seemed to be under control, I went out with my mom to cheer for Michaela, who by the way is now a black belt. And I went out again later with the kids to Menchies for frozen yogurt. It was weird, I felt like I’d been locked up and then set free. Which was great but not really because I hate leaving my mate behind.

Mike comes first obviously and so when he needs extra attention, I drop everything. I took work off (I only teach a few fitness classes a week anyway), and I took school off … no problem, but I still had lots of work to do on my book even though I finished and submitted my manuscript at the end of September. I was able to get a little bit of work done in the day, but mostly worked at night when Mike was in bed. Some people might wonder why I would take on such a huge project while caring for my husband who needs me almost all the time. Yah, it’s  a little crazy, but I didn’t want to wait until it was too late for Mike to be part of the process and see it when it’s complete.

After submitting my manuscript to my publisher at the end of September there has been a series of tasks to do to have everything ready for typesetting which starts next week. My deadline for changes was Friday and I made a few right up until the end of the day. Nina, my editor has been so patient with me and just amazing to work with. Quickly I came to know Nina as a beautiful soul with a brilliant mind. After her first read through of my manuscript, I was so happy to read her message that said, “Yours and your husband's story brought tears to my eyes again and again, and lots of laughter too. Well done!” She told me she didn’t change any of the story, that she just made grammatical and spelling corrections and left comments for me in some places if she had a question or if she wanted me to elaborate on something etc. To me that sounded great and I thought the editing process was going to be easy…not!

Along with the editing, other tasks included: the front cover design (and I must say, Trista, the cover designer is truly gifted), back cover, author bios, acknowledgments, getting permission to use quotes, confirming Bible references and obtaining copy right information and so on. It’s been quite an adventure and a huge learning experience.

Another assignment was to get testimonies for my book. The first person I asked was local author and international speaker from Blackaby Ministries International, Dr Tom Blackaby, who  agreed to consider giving me a testimony upon reading my manuscript. Most people just want a sample of a manuscript, but Tom wanted the whole manuscript, which was impressive because I knew he was really busy because he mentioned he received my message en route to a destination somewhere in the US.

I’ve met Tom twice. The first time I met him was at Discovery Church—he spoke one Sunday when Pastor Trevor was away. I don’t know if Tom would remember, but I went right up to him and told him what a great speaker he was and how his dad’s book, (the best seller, award winner) ’Experiencing God’ changed my life. And it really did change my life! I have a number of books authored by a “Blackaby” … Tom, his dad Henry, his brother Richard. I know there are others in the Blackaby family who have authored books as well…collectively, there are many “Blackaby” books. So anyway, to have Tom agree to read my manuscript was a thrill!

About a week and a half after he told me he would read my manuscript, I received Tom’s message in reply to my request for a testimony. I was at school, so my phone was turned off, but I could see I had a message from him. I could read the first two lines which said, “I read your manuscript on the plane to Chicago. I didn’t have enough…” Well, that negative voice in my head jumped in right away and I thought, he didn’t have enough information, or maybe the book doesn’t have enough substance, or maybe he doesn’t have enough time to write a testimony (to let me down easy). But a little later when I opened the message and read it, I was so relieved and filled with joy when I read, “kleenex”…he didn’t have enough kleenex! I was so humbled and grateful for his very encouraging words to me personally and by his thoughtful and excellent testimony. Thank you Tom!

I had hoped for three testimonies in particular—one from a Christian author, one from an ALS expert and one from a world class athlete (specifically hockey) and I got all three, so I’m really happy!

I am honoured … humbled … blessed … by this whole experience! And exhausted!


“Will God ever ask you to do something you are not able to do? The answer is yes–all the time! It must be that way, for God’s glory and kingdom.” Henry Blackaby



Mike didn't make it out to trick or treat this year, but he still had spirit


The girls said trick or treating without Mike just wan't the same ... they really missed him


 Leah as the wicked witch from one of Mike's favourite movies, 'The Wizard of Oz


 Luke and Mike had matching costumes


Michaela (centre) with her friends

Friday, 19 September 2014

For Better or Worse

The day Mike was diagnosed with ALS, he told us he didn’t want a tracheal tube to help him breath when the illness progressed to that point. A tracheal tube is invasive mechanical ventilation that requires a tracheostomy for placement of a tube into the windpipe to deliver air directly into the lungs. Every once in a while throughout this journey, I have asked Mike if he still feels the same way about this ‘thrach' topic and without hesitation, he responds yes. Its Mike’s life and as much as I want him to be with me for as long as possible, I would never try to talk him into a tracheal tube. He says it will just prolong the inevitable and he says he would rather be doing cartwheels in heaven than stuck here, completely paralyzed and breathing through a tube. I don’t blame him…I think I’d feel the same way.

Sometimes I watch Mike breath; at night mostly when he sleeps. I stare at his chest to see it rise and fall and I delight in the small movement and in the odd deep breath. Of course the inability to breath is what makes this illness fatal, so even though Mike is almost fully paralyzed, those deep breaths give me hope - there’s still time.  

This summer Mike was listed as “palliative”. While anyone diagnosed with a terminal illness is considered palliative, when Mike was “listed” as palliative, I was left with a lump in my throat for days. When you hear “palliative” you think, “dying” and while Mike is dying of ALS, we’ve never really thought of it as dying of ALS, but instead, “living with ALS”.

Palliative care is specialized medical care for people with serious/incurable illness. The focus of palliative care is to keep the patient comfortable. Doctors and nurses work with the existing medical team to provide an extra layer of support. The goal is quality of life.

When Mike was listed as palliative, we were told that doctors and nurses would come to our house to see us and offer support as needed. We were also told that Mike would start getting his medication for free and perhaps even home care for free and other “perks”. We thought, “Wow, membership has its privileges.” Had we known these things, perhaps we would have signed up earlier.

Sure enough we have had visits from the community palliative nurses and someone from the Provincial Respritory Outreach Program who brought a non-invasive breathing machine called a bi-pap and a back-up suction machine. The palliative doctor came for a visit as well. She prescribed Mike with a liquid compound medication for his excessive secretions that goes in his tube. It has helped, but lately, I must say the faucet has been running again.

Even though Mike has recently been listed as palliative we are not discouraged and even though Mike has made a firm decision regarding invasive breathing apparatus, we as a family are not discouraged…we make the best of this life with ALS however long or short it is…we are at peace…we actually feel extremely blessed.

It’s a sorry state of affairs this world. ALS is just a drop in to bucket when it comes to trials and tribulation. So many people on this planet are experiencing far worse. I can’t watch the news very often, it’s just far too upsetting. Sometimes I say, “I should have watched that Seinfeld re-run again instead of the news.” And we drag ourselves to bed feeling terrible for others and grateful to be us.

Ah, life…no one warned it was going to be so unfair, but no one promised it was going to be wonderful either and isn’t it both? Don’t we need to take the bad with the good? Mike and I embrace both because without the one, we wouldn’t have the other.

When we take our beloved partner in marriage, we take them “for better or worse,” We accept their faults for our favourite things about them. It’s a package deal…kind of like life! We accept the faults and our favourite things about it, and like Mike would say, “It’s it good to be alive!”

Other news around here: 

~ Teachers are no longer on strike here in BC, so Erin is back to work and happy to be back! And she continues to recover well from her hip replacement surgery. 

~ Leah starts Kindergarden! Following in her dad’s footsteps (and aunts and cousins), she is going into French Immersion…tres bien!

~ I have gone back to school as well. Madison and I are taking the SETA (Special Education Teacher Assistant) course. I’ve been interested in this program for a long time and am so thrilled to be taking it now with Madison! This has been a big step for me because not only is it a challenge with my time, it also kind of breaks my heart to “move forward” when I just really want to stay “here” with Mike.

~ My dad continues to wait for a surgery date to remove his cancerous tumour and is upset because he says had he known he would have to wait this long, he would have followed through with his plans to go to Malawi. He has a building project going on there, plus, he has more wells to drill. He says he’s got to get back; theres a lot more work to do. I’m sure he’ll be back before we know it. The plan is Nathan will accompany him next time.

~ The Ice Bucket challenge has come and gone, but lingers on around here…just the other day we had a surprise video from Vinroy, Mike’s best buddy from Toronto who he hasn’t seen in years. Mike and I were both in tears watching the heart warming video. Just before Vinroy gets the freezing cold bucket of ice water dumped on his head, he says, “This one’s for you Mike. If it wasn’t for you, I wouldn’t be here…you know what I mean.” Mike saved Vinroy from drowning when they were teenagers. Mike has actually saved a few people from drowning.

~ Also, while the Bucket Challenge was going strong, Jerrica, a young women from our community started a fundraiser for us on Facebook. She said it was a way for people to donate directly to a family dealing with ALS. The fundraiser is still happening and Jerrica is determined to reach three times her goal…she’s almost there. I first met Jerrica when she organized a fundraiser for Project Wellness at her high school, a few years back. It was a huge success and she kept thanking me for speaking at the event. I had to laugh because she was doing us the favour, and I kept thanking her. Thank you Jerrica once again and thank you everyone for your very kind and encouraging words and generous Ice Bucket donations! 

~ I am almost finished writing my book. In order for it to be on shelves in the spring, the manuscript is due next Friday. For weeks I’ve been saying, “It’s almost done!” But there’s still a ways to go in tying up lose ends. Everyone has been so patient with me as it’s been my primary focus for months. Thanks to Madison for all the salads, sandwiches, muffins and other meals!

Well, that list of news is a lot of good news. I’ll go to bed tonight with a happy heart and watch Mike’s chest rise and fall and delight in every breath. And I’ll give thanks to the Lord of course!


One final thing, we have lived here with Elanna and Peter and kids for over two years now (three summers) and they continue to stick by our side “for better or worse”. While Michaela and Luke are teenagers and would probably love to have their rec room space, we never hear a complaint. We never hear a complaint about anything from any of them. We are grateful beyond words for their help and support and we couldn’t do it without them!

                             Michaela, Elanna, Peter and Luke on ALS Walk day


Nathan and Leah breaking in new ball gloves

Leah catching fly balls and grounders...taking after grandma and granddad




Thursday, 28 August 2014

Ice Bucket List - by Mike Sands

In the Christmas movie Elf, Santa Claus is seen stranded in Central Park, New York. The motor on his sleigh breaks down and Buddy the elf attempts to fix it. As Buddy works on the sleigh, Santa explains to Buddy that in the good old days he would never have this problem because his sleigh was powered by the spirit of Christmas. 

Buddy’s girlfriend convinces a crowd to join her in singing Christmas carols. The group’s singing is broadcasted nationwide and soon everyone is singing, which raises the spirit of christmas to new heights. Santa’s sleigh is soon seen soaring in the sky.

I had my first symptoms of ALS four years ago this month. Over the past four years I have lost the ability to walk, talk, move most of my body and swallow properly; in essence every muscle in my body has stopped working or is on it’s way to that result. 

It’s understandable for anyone in these circumstances to be in low spirits. As I experience my body deteriorating on a daily basis I look for things to raise my spirits and the recent ALS Ice Bucket Challenge has done this. The money raised is great but what’s even more important is that the challenge is a sign that society is in our corner, ready to fight this disease with us arm in arm. 

Right now with my elevated spirits, I think I could guide Santa’s sleigh clear around the world.

It took Mike a few day to write this blog post...Ice Buck List. Below are pictures of him working on the piece, one letter at a time on his communication device, the DynaVox. His neck muscles don't last long, so his window of time to write is very limited. 

Mike's blog post's Fried Chicken Bucket List, My "R" Rated Blog and Hawaii 5-Old are the most read posts on ALS With Courage. My favourite is Ahoy Matey...and now this one! Check them out!






Friday, 22 August 2014

Pouring Buckets

They say when it rains it pours and that’s exactly what’s been happening around here lately. It’s been pouring buckets for the last few weeks, but before I say anything about the Ice Bucket Craze for ALS, I’m going to back things up to last Saturday.

I was spending a lot of time with Erin who was recovering from her hip replacement surgery, but I had come home for a little while to see Mike…I was so thankful Aileen and Pat were here for the week making it possible for me to go back and forth.

I had just left the house and was heading back to Erin’s when I got a call from my mom. I had left my parents a message earlier asking if they had heard back from the doctor regarding my dad’s recent blood test results. 

My dad had been to the doctor a few days before at the prompting of some friends who thought his skin looked a little yellow. I noticed his colour was off too, kind of like a spray tan gone bad. My dad has never had a spray tan - he’s probably never heard of a spray tan, so maybe I should have said something.

Anyway, my mom returned my call to tell me they had heard back from the doctor about the blood work and that the doctor sent my dad straight to the hospital because something wasn’t right and they wanted to do more tests. 

So then I found myself at the 7-11 by the hospital picking up snacks and a puzzle book for my dad…I felt like I was dreaming. Only a half an hour earlier, I was suctioning the back of Mike’s throat and a few hours before that, I was doing Erin’s laundry and helping her with her mobility exercises and a week before that I was sitting beside my dad out in the back yard with the rest of the family listening to him recall stories from his all-time favourite trip to Paraguay.

My dad has lots of interesting and exciting stories about his travels. I tell him he should write a book one day. He says he will when he retires from his missionary work…but he also says he’s never going to retire.

If you ask him about this particular trip to Paraguay, he reminds you again it is his very favourite. It was a trip to connect with his parent’s past and learn about the history of his ancestors and meet relatives he never knew. 

His parents, along with a large Mennonite community from Manitoba followed their hopes and dreams to a place they were told was a land of milk and honey. This was in the late1920s before my dad was born.

The milk and honey turned out to be Typhoid Fever and many members of the group died, including my dad’s aunt and sister. My grandmother was so devastated and very sick herself, she just wanted to go home. So back to Manitoba they went and started again from scratch.

My dad’s eyes light up when he talks about traveling on the beautiful Paraguayan River and visiting the land his parent’s tried to build a life on. He tells you about seeing the spot his baby sister was laid to rest, along with his aunt. He tells about the connections he made with the relatives still there, and he particularly loves to talk about the ride he took by train from Port of Casados to the Mennonite colonies.

The first thought that came to my mind when I heard my dad was in the hospital was this visit in the back yard the week prior and the feeling I got while I listened to this story I have heard many times before…the feeling was a lovely, peaceful, feeling. I just relaxed and listened and loved how excited he was to tell about it again…and yes, I wondered about his weird tan.

The weird tan was a symptom and the CT Scan revealed a tumour in his pancreas and a biopsy revealed cancer. Wow, it was a quite a blow for sure and like they say, when it rains it pours and sometimes it pours buckets…even during the most sunny month of the year.

While we waited for test results to see if the cancer had spread, we of course prayed and hoped for the best. While we prayed and hoped for the best, another prayer was being answered.

This is what I said about the recent ALS fundraiser phenomenon in an article I wrote for iVillage, a Corus Entertainment property and women’s lifestyle website based in Toronto:

“Recently, Lou Gehrig’s Disease has been in the spotlight with the viral “Ice Bucket Challenge” fundraiser -- a movement to raise awareness and funds for ALS.

I’ve been watching from the sidelines and feel like I’m cheering the underdog on to victory. In a matter of a few weeks, ALS quickly inundated our news feeds. Pro athletes, musicians, politicians, big name celebrities and others are getting in on it, including Oprah and Bill Gates. I particularly liked Charlie Sheen’s video on Monday -- instead of dumping a bucket of ice water on his head, he dumped a bucket of cash -- $10,000.

ALS gets some much-needed and well-deserved attention and I think that’s great. Finally people are hearing about it, awareness and funds are being raised and our hope for a cure has been renewed. And it puts a smile on my husband's face when he hears, ‘This one's for you’.”

I was honoured to be asked by Russell, an editor or iVillage to give my opinion on the Ice Bucket Challenge. He said he had come across my blog and was interested in my writing and our lives with ALS. The article was well received and shared on the OWN Canada (Oprah Winfrey), W Network and CNT Network Facebook pages along with many others.

So needless to say, it’s been pouring buckets…literally, and this is where we are at today: Erin in recovering well from her hip surgery and she is almost off the pain medication which has taken a bit of a toll on her stomach. It looks like my dad’s cancer is contained and he will have surgery as soon as possible to remove the tumour. And regarding the Ice Bucket Challenge, millions of dollars have been raised and perhaps even better than that, more people are becoming aware of this devastating disease. Mike’s response spelled out in a quiet whisper;  i-s-n-t  t-h-i-s  g-r-e-a-t. 

To read my article on the iVillage website, go to: http://www.ivillage.ca/health/als-ice-bucket-challenge-nadine-sands-mike-disease

                                                   My dad in hospital last week

Erin, pre op

Erin, a few days after surgery

Fully rely on God

Monday, 4 August 2014

His Brains, My Biceps

The following is the start of a blog post I never finished from a few months ago…it’s a little dark. I’m okay now…things have a way of turning around:

I’ve been procrastinating for a while. I don’t want to write this blog post because everyone will know that I’m not as strong as I look; I’m not as strong as everyone thinks I am. I’m weak and thankfully God is strong and that’s the only reason I am where I am. I have definitely imagined myself in other places, but by God’s grace, I’m in this place…I’m in the palm of His hand.

I just thought I was dealing with a little bit of mental fatigue but it’s more than that. I call myself crazy sometimes, but my mind is just a little mixed up. I stare at the three toothbrushes and can’t decide which one is mine. I know its purple but sometimes it takes me a while to determine which one is purple…I think I’m losing it. It’s a bunch of stuff: fatigue, burn out, maybe depression. It’s the first time in my life I have ever thought, “What’s the point?”

There was more, but you get the drift. Those feelings didn’t last that long - about two months. But on a regular basis, I am mentally drained…I forget stuff all the time and I get a little mixed up. I often tell Mike that between the two of us, we make one great person…with his brains and my biceps (and the rest of my body) we really function well. Anyway, I didn’t tell anyone I definitely wasn’t functioning well during those couple of months, but my sister kept asking if I was okay and Erin was encouraging me to get away. 

I kept saying I was fine and I told Erin I’d go away for a day or two when Aunt Pat came…that was around April or the beginning of May. Pat was coming sometime in June. When she confirmed she was coming the last weekend in June, I asked Nathan to stay over night on the Saturday of that weekend. I knew between our two sisters and the kids and Mike’s regular home care support people, he would be well taken care of…even still, it’s really hard to leave him.

When I heard the workshop I was interested in attending was happening that weekend, I signed up. It was called “Inspire A Book” - a two day intensive for potential authors wanting to gain knowledge about writing and publishing a book. I was really excited about the workshop, but not about leaving Mike.

Leaving Mike for a whole day or more is agony, but not having a day away every once in a while is painful too. It’s the greatest internal tug of war I’m sure I’ll ever know. 

I’m going away again tomorrow for a couple of days. Erin is having hip replacement surgery tomorrow, so of course I will be with her for the day and I will spend the night with her at the UBC Hospital. Pat, Aileen and Sheila (Mike’s sisters and mum) are coming to help and with the help of my family as well, Mike and Erin will both be well cared for!

The Inspire A Book workshop was great…and exhausting. At the end of the first day, Julie, author and publisher of Influence Publishing (CEO), who led the workshop took me aside and told me she wanted to publish my book and handed me some paper work - a contract. She told me to read it over with Mike and she said she was really excited about my book.

After deciding to write a book and after researching everything I could about publishing, I was a little overwhelmed and then a friend told me about ‘Influence’, a company based here in Vancouver. I looked into it and thought it was perfect for me. I sent Julie a book proposal about a month before the workshop. I kept thinking, “This is really dumb…or maybe its pretty good”…I had no idea. Anyway, she liked it and I have embarked on something really exciting…telling Mike’s story in a book…our story.

What else is exciting is Erin’s new hip. The end of a long journey and the beginning of something great. And that’s a whole other story…

“The wind really was boisterous and the waves really were high, but Peter didn’t see them at first. He didn’t consider them at all; he simply recognized his Lord, stepped out in recognition of Him, and “walked on the water.” Then he began to take those things around him into account, and instantly, down he went…If you are truly recognizing your Lord, you have no business being concerned about how and where He engineers your circumstances. The things surrounding you are real, but when you look at them you are immediately overwhelmed, and even unable to recognize Jesus. Then comes His rebuke, “. . . why did you doubt?” (Matt 14:31). Let your actual circumstances be what they may, but keep recognizing Jesus, maintaining complete reliance upon Him…You do not know when His voice will come to you, but whenever the realization of God comes, even in the faintest way imaginable, be determined to recklessly abandon yourself, surrendering everything to Him. It is only through abandonment of yourself and your circumstances that you will recognize Him.” Oswald Chambers


Me and Mike and Erin and my mom at an ultimate frisbee game last weekend cheering for Nathan and Madison and all the players

We are all hoping and praying for the best possible out-come for Erin's surgery tomorrow and a for quick and complete recovery! Amen!



Thursday, 31 July 2014

Free Parking

Last week on Wednesday when I took Mike to his bath appointment at the hospital, there was no parking in the free, ten minute drop-off zone in front of the building where we usually park, so I drove around to the back. We have parked in the back a few times before, but not only is it all pay parking, there is only one wheelchair spot. Thankfully, the one wheelchair parking spot was available and for the sake of the five or ten minutes it takes me to drop Mike off, I wasn’t going to worry about paying for parking.

As I was getting Mike out of the van, I could see a couple that looked a little lost walking toward us. It was a beautiful older Indo-Canadian couple in bright coloured clothing, each walking with a cane. The man came right up to the van and asked if I knew where he could pay for parking. His accent was lovely, but his english a little rough, so there was some confusion when he also showed me the map of where in the hospital they had to go.

I pointed him in the direction of the entrance where the parking machine is and I told him we were going that way and I would help him. He and his wife started walking toward the entrance while I got Mike out of the van. We caught up to them and went in together and I showed him the parking machine. He told me his parking stall number and I punch it in along with the amount of time he wanted. I told him it was $6 and he pulled out a bunch of change from his pocket. He had a toonie and two loonies and a bunch of dimes, so I took the four bigger coins out of his hand and grabbed two loonies of my own and put the money in and gave him his ticket. He wasn’t about to accept my money and insisted I take all of his dimes. He showed me his map again of where he and his wife had to go, so we walked them to the elevator and I explained to them that they needed to go up one floor and then when they got out of the elevator, they needed to turn right and follow the hall to reception. They thanked us very much and we parted ways.

Yesterday when I picked Mike up from his bath appointment, we passed a man in the hall talking to medical personnel. I told Mike it looked like the man from last week and continued to our vehicle parked in the free, drop off zone in the front of the building. As I was wheeling Mike backwards up the ramp into the van, the tall, well dressed man with a bright blue turban appeared. He tapped his hand on the outside of one thigh a few times and with a big smile said his wife had her surgery and it went well. I said that was great and told him we were happy to hear it. He said, “Do you remember me?” I said we did; Mike nodded. He pointed to Mike and said, “What about him?” I told the man Mike was ill and that he probably wasn’t going to get better. The man came closer and with his finger pointing up, he said, “God is supreme!” Mike and I nodded in agreement. He said it again and then told us if we pray every morning and every night, everything would be alright. We nodded in agreement and the man said good bye and walked away.

As we drove off, I got a little choked up and glanced at Mike in the rear view mirror. He was already smiling at me - I smiled back and thought how God is very mysterious but He keeps it so simple at the same time.






Thursday, 24 July 2014

On Track

Mike’s sister, Moira and her husband Mike were here for a visit a few weeks ago. They came a day before Pat got here and left a few days before she did.

Moira isn’t a fan of flying and of course, I can relate…I think her aversion to flying is even stronger than mine. When I heard they were taking the train back home to Toronto, I thought, “What a great idea!”

I would love to take a train across the country. Mike and I had often spoke of doing that together someday. Not only would it be a great way to see the spectacular scenery of each province, but trains travel on the ground (so there's no fear of falling out of the sky like there is in a plane).

This is Mike’s message to Moira about a week after they left:

“So I guess you are home by now. Most people taking the train will say the rocky mountain portion is enjoyable and that the prairies are boring because they contain only vast amounts of tall wheat fields that are bland to the eye. I read a book years ago called ‘Who Has Seen the Wind’ by WO Mitchell. In the book the last chapter gives a description of the old grandma who is wheelchair bound and sits all day staring out the window at the wheat blowing in the wind. To all around her people see what appears to be a demented old lady staring into space but Mitchell's description gives the reader a different outlook at what she sees.”

Moira’s reply back:

“We just got in this afternoon as our train was 5 hours behind schedule due to a freight train that had problems ahead. Many times we stopped to allow for freight to pass, as they get priority. No problem for us, as we just sat up in the glass top area watching the scenery and talking with some of the train passengers who were very friendly. 
Although the prairies were not as spectacular as the rocky mountains, they had their own beauty, and we enjoyed watching all of it, including the forest and lake areas after that. We were allowed to get off the train occasionally in small towns along the way for some fresh air and a stretch while the train was serviced, and if you have ever seen the show 'Corner Gas', well it reminded me of that, with the size of the towns... 
The train was only really rocky one night, the rest of it was normal old fashioned train rocking, just like the olden days. You felt as though you had been on a train from the 50's, especially with some of the original bunks and refurbished end of the train lounge car with a cigar/beer table, original redone lounge chairs and decor. It was like that same place on the train in the movie ‘Double Indemnity’ with Fred MacMurray and Barbara Stanwyck, where he steps out the back door for a smoke.”  

The following is a poem written by Michaela for a school writing assignment:


My uncle is a train. Always staying on track. Determined, motivated and knows where it’s going. The outside is made of hard, strong metal yet inside is cozy and inviting. The inside has chairs lined in perfect rows which look hard but once you sit and stay a while you realize they have the softest cushions in the world. In the front the engineer shovels coal into the fire. He doesn’t stop to take a break or get tired. Instead he pushes to the limit in order to keep things running smoothly. Sometimes the train needs some helpers and sometimes it can go on its own. But one thing is certain, nothing can stop it.



Michaela, Elanna, Peter and Luke before the ALS walk in PoCo last month

Elanna, Michaela and my mom with all of us at the ALS Walk in PoCo last month